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    贴子一览 心理学家说,这7个迹象说明你把孩子抚养得很好 (新回复在最前,最多列出 6 个)  [列出所有回复]
    90年代 发表于: 2018/03/12 09:07pm
    这个应该不是传统中国父母教育孩子的方式。
     
    tina108624 发表于: 2018/03/08 05:25pm
    <p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><img class="" data-backh="372" data-backw="558" data-ratio="0.6675" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1200" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY0rqPLTk4icnaTusibF355G311Pc4Yo7ISCZlic57FWeKXibicN9lv36lpZIgs7e4eLeyevSBxG9amHOGw/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" style="width: 100%;height: auto;"  /></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">作者:小楼老师</span></strong></p><p style="margin-bottom: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;"><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">来源:小楼老师心理课</span></strong><span style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">(ID: xiaolouxinli)</span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88501" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 25.6px;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;display: inline-block;width: 556.22px;vertical-align: top;border-width: 1px 4px 4px 1px;border-radius: 0px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 63);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="margin: 15px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p><span style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 1px;">问问你自己,这7个迹象存在于你抚养孩子的过程中吗?</span></p></section></section></section><p style="text-align: center;margin-top: 15px;"><img class="__bg_gif" data-ratio="0.45454545454545453" data-w="22" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/tcBjXg0JL2SSF9cTk3LcEPmhbW5EGJVJKInqEyCgKRfYNK0kmbGGa65IIlk05BDCMq7vy6ICOZHnxCcibTcUDkQ/640?" style="text-align: center;letter-spacing: 2px;font-family: 微软雅黑;white-space: pre-wrap;font-size: 15px;text-indent: 30px;color: rgb(255, 172, 170);line-height: 26.25px;vertical-align: middle;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 21.9886px !important;" width="auto"  /></p><p style="margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;margin-top: 15px;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">新时代父母对自己要求很高。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">即便将孩子抚养得很好,有时也会对自己不满意。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果在养育孩子过程中,有着7个迹象,就说明父母将孩子抚养得很不错了。应该好好肯定自己。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 8px 25px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">哪7个迹象呢?</span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><article class="" data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px auto;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">01</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">孩子能够在你面前,表现出各种各样的情绪。</span></strong></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">很多父母比较头疼孩子在自己面前“发脾气”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">但每个人都会有各种情绪,区别只是会不会在某个人面前表现出来而已。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">对一般人而言,觉得越亲近的人,越容易在他们面前表现情绪。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果孩子心理感觉和父母贴近,就敢在父母面前表现出各种情绪,尤其是负面情绪——愤怒、悲伤、恐惧等等。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">也只有当孩子感觉与父母相处有绝对安全感,才会在父母面前撒娇。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果孩子在父母面前表现的情绪很少,或者只表现某一类情绪,就预示着亲子关系有些问题了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">父母需要注意,自己是否不许孩子表现出某种情绪,或者当孩子表现某种情绪的时候就打岔。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(139, 123, 123);">接纳孩子的每一种情绪,如果孩子不知道怎么描述自己的情绪,可以帮他们说出来。</span></strong></p><p style="margin: 20px 8px 25px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(139, 123, 123);"><img class="" data-backh="361" data-backw="542" data-ratio="0.6666666666666666" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1200" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY0rqPLTk4icnaTusibF355G31NzBzAICWvlYYWvNSmCkTR5s6OrLHHibEKgDSYODYErW0fFVOKwUm64g/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" style="width: 100%;height: auto;"  /></span></strong></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><article class="" data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px auto;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">02</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">孩子受伤或者遇到问题时,</span></strong><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">首先找你。</span></strong></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">很多父母以为孩子遇到问题会找自己解决。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">其实未必。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">孩子会先判断父母对此事件的反应,预测可能的后果。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">所有判断都是基于孩子过去和父母相处的经验。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">只有当孩子觉得会获得帮助,遇到问题才会第一时间找父母。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果孩子过去在外面受到伤害,找父母求助,而父母采取责怪的态度,孩子以后可能宁愿忍耐痛苦,也不会找父母求助。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 8px 25px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><img class="" data-backh="364" data-backw="542" data-ratio="0.6716417910447762" data-type="jpeg" data-w="670" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY0rqPLTk4icnaTusibF355G31MclSNz7E2ic4icQicticB8bIjjibeEq8F0IuogA8o2CSXia4uiaSdgqA6Or7A/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" style="width: 100%;height: auto;"  /></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section 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data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word 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25px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><img class="" data-backh="362" data-backw="542" data-ratio="0.6671641791044776" data-type="jpeg" data-w="670" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY0rqPLTk4icnaTusibF355G31mgOuBJDibic8WATqFfj9StSmjPWsVzHR2L785J888pwZ6kFeqrD1MsIg/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" style="width: 100%;height: auto;"  /></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box 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url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">04</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">你对孩子的反馈不评判,也不贴标签。</span></strong></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">有些父母给孩子的反馈完全不客观,甚至给孩子贴上很多标签。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我曾听一个妈妈说,孩子很不爱吃蔬菜。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">这本没什么,但她很快做出一个结论:所以他性格急躁。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我不知道这两者有什么关系。唯一的关系可能是,这个妈妈既担心孩子不爱吃蔬菜,又担心孩子性格急躁。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">也有些父母在诉说了孩子行为以后,总要给孩子贴上一个标签——比如懒、贪吃,不够聪明等等。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">这些标签和评判并不能让孩子变得更好,只会让他们变得越来越像“标签”那样。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 8px 25px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><img class="" data-backh="362" data-backw="542" data-ratio="0.6671641791044776" data-type="jpeg" data-w="670" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY0rqPLTk4icnaTusibF355G31WXwzETQRg8naxvJq64KZLbxxTma2Oibt7uA4WWAu2tRtgkjia2olSdVw/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" style="width: 100%;height: auto;"  /></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><article class="" data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px auto;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">05</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">你鼓励孩子做自己喜欢做的事,</span></strong><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">做自己喜欢做的事情。</span></strong></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">可以帮助孩子发展出成就感。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">在追求兴趣的过程中,孩子会发展出“持之以恒”的能力,他们也会更少尝试危险行为。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">有些父母则不允许孩子发现自己的兴趣领域。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">他们让孩子发展的“兴趣”,其实是自己没有被满足的兴趣或爱好。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果父母不让孩子发现自己的天赋,逼迫他们学习自己不感兴趣的领域,孩子会很害怕自己让父母失望,他们学习过程中感受到的压力也会尤其大。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">这样的结果就是,孩子一直在压抑中学习。</span></p><p style="margin: 20px 8px 25px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><img class="" data-backh="362" data-backw="542" data-ratio="0.6671641791044776" data-type="jpeg" data-w="670" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY0rqPLTk4icnaTusibF355G31rOKo2tNgKKONDkG9yH17ksrKQBDzRicppjL23HaibAD7JBADNEYCYQeg/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" style="width: 100%;height: auto;"  /></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><article class="" data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px auto;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">06</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">你会给孩子设置恰当规则,不担心孩子反抗。</span></strong></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">负责的父母会引导孩子的行为,给他们设置恰当的规则,而不会因为担心孩子不高兴,</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">或不喜欢自己,就对孩子听之任之。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">完全被放任的孩子,未来会遇到很多麻烦。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">恰当的规则包括:</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">每天什么时间该做什么事,比如吃饭时间、睡觉时间;</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">生活习惯规划,睡前刷牙,换洗衣服,做家务,晚回家要让父母知道和谁在一起等等;</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">使用礼貌用语,去别人家注意什么礼仪,过马路、乘车要注意什么等等。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><img class="" data-backh="361" data-backw="542" data-ratio="0.6652173913043479" data-type="jpeg" data-w="690" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY0rqPLTk4icnaTusibF355G311mT42wmp7AsXH3wU7akAa0HCribBjriaOVrdicUK5ibDgOwWpA2C4SsAyg/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" style="width: 100%;height: auto;"  /></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;line-height: 25.6px;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><article class="" data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px auto;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">07</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style="list-style-type: circle;"><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">会对孩子道歉,并且弥补过错。</span></strong></p></li></ul><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我曾写过一篇文章叫《三个字就能改善和孩子的关系,很多父母却不肯说》。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">亲子相处中出现的问题,未必全是孩子的错,有时父母也有做的不对的地方。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">比如情绪反应过度,对孩子大发脾气,打孩子。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果事情已经发生,父母需要做的就是承认并且弥补自己的错误。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">你可以和孩子谈谈:冷静下来之后想过,如果重来一次,你会怎么做。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">你也可以和孩子谈谈:当时是什么情绪或者想法,让你没有克制住冲动。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">亲子关系是一辈子的关系,传统的思想总是认为父母对孩子就是应该高高在上,对孩子多什么都理所当然,甚至只要是自己觉得“为了孩子好”就不考虑孩子感受去做。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">常听一些父母说:我打他是为他好。这是很奇怪的逻辑。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果想让孩子明白道理,首先要用孩子能理解的语言去讲道理。打孩子一顿,只会让孩子害怕“被打”这种行为。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">孩子最后会得出结论——我这么做会被爸妈打。但为什么不能这么做?也许永远都不知道......</span><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"></span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-left: 8px;margin-right: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">这7个迹象存在于你抚养孩子的过程中吗?</span></p>
     


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