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<p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;"><img width=600 class="" data-copyright="0" data-cropselx1="0" data-cropselx2="542" data-cropsely1="0" data-cropsely2="350" data-ratio="0.6803921568627451" data-s="300,640" src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/SL01kv8vjY1N2ysOXzg2AtHVzy7Y5HOSzgEicUOWCCgBJAc7iaQS5VWMvC3UVFY9K9nX6IrxPtiaoh6iaa8fnPQ4sw/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="510" style="height: 369px;width: 542px;"  /></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;"><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">作者:小禾妈</span></strong></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-bottom: 20px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;"><strong><span style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">来源:女儿派</span></strong><span style="font-size: 14px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">(ID: nverpai)</span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="88501" style="white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;line-height: 25.6px;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;display: inline-block;width: 556.22px;vertical-align: top;border-width: 1px 4px 4px 1px;border-radius: 0px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(62, 62, 63);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" style="margin: 15px;max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p><span style="font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">无条件的爱和坚持原则,并不矛盾,其实也必须同时存在,不然的话,爱,就会变成溺爱。</span></p></section></section></section><p style="margin-top: 25px;"><mpvoice frameborder="0" class="res_iframe js_editor_audio audio_iframe" 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!important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><article class="" data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px ;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;margin-top: 5px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">01</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">最近,有一个视频特别火。<br  /></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><iframe class="video_iframe" data-vidtype="2" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" data-ratio="1.7647058823529411" data-w="480" src="https://v.qq.com/iframe/preview.html?vid=m1316mn1fee&amp;width=500&amp;height=375&amp;=0"></iframe></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">一位父亲,带着两个女儿逛超市,淘气的小女儿故意打掉姐姐手里的东西。</span><br  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">爸爸坚定地让小女儿给姐姐道歉,小女儿执意不肯,爸爸态度坚决,一定要道歉。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><img width=600 src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/meksZZXgV0RuKE0NglaXY9FpRSYyqOlcVzD1icMe3P33JkhfNJpR7Q6h7lxOteeR3jibCnjNzyC6r7AKZZicVVakA/640?wx_fmt=png" data-type="png" class="" data-ratio="0.5433436532507739" data-w="646"  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">无计可施的小女儿开始耍赖,索性躺在地上,为自己开脱,</span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“<strong>我不是故意的</strong>”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">爸爸坚持,说:“不管你是否故意都要道歉。”</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">一旁的姐姐想打破僵局,就说:“算了吧,不用道歉。”</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">小女儿赶紧给自己找台阶下:“她都说不用道歉了。” </span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">但爸爸坚持己见:</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong>“不管姐姐要不要这个道歉,你必须道歉。” </strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">父女的行为,引起围观,有人看不下去,鼓励爸爸抽她个大耳光,这样她肯定乖乖听话。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><img width=600 src="https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/meksZZXgV0RuKE0NglaXY9FpRSYyqOlczWkpaWENrXwJYxtwKHdPELt1vscjOG8bjGZWGkCAnlba50AoWDU5icA/640?wx_fmt=png" data-type="png" class="" data-ratio="0.5384615384615384" data-w="650"  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">当然,爸爸没有采用,只是再次表明自己的态度,“必须要说对不起” 。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">最后,在爸爸的坚持下,小女儿终于说出了“对不起”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">在爸爸看来,犯了错误,就要向人道歉,这是原则问题,容不得半点商量,不管孩子撒泼耍赖,还是有人说情,或是有人挑唆,坚持着自己的原则,一定要让女儿执行到底。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">林肯说,最重要的是,在关键的时刻能够坚持原则。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">教育孩子,亦是如此。</span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 25.6px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" data-mpa-powered-by="yiban.io" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-mpa-template="t" class="" mpa-paragraph-type="ignored" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><article class="" data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px ;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 25px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">02</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">看过《妈妈是超人》,马雅舒的教育方式被很多人吐槽。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">很多人不解,为何这位把“不行”、“不可以”挂在嘴边,时刻对孩子严令禁止做这做那的妈妈,孩子对她的话却置若罔闻,完全不放在心上。</span></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;"><br  /></p><p style="margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;"><img width=600 src="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/Oa9p9PIb7crJFwC63eLeK9g4hWviaDiaDP4zG09LoVCfrdxCQaRyVtkjE56Seiapria9r01cjW38LNKCq4eGfaFU8A/640?wx_fmt=png" data-type="png" class="" data-ratio="0.5616666666666666" data-w="600"  /><img width=600 src="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/Oa9p9PIb7crJFwC63eLeK9g4hWviaDiaDP3IgKYfvFlhh4hKxA4WSaJhyQFdaibEmoLQv3rvDVwwUnIhEmyaxI6Hg/640?wx_fmt=png" data-type="png" class="" data-ratio="0.5616666666666666" data-w="600"  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">有这样的细节,她带孩子们去菜市场,两个小朋友用手摸鱼,濒临绝望的妈妈,说了无数遍“不行”“不可以”,姐弟俩却当耳旁风,姐姐摸完,弟弟又紧跟着去摸。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><img width=600 src="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/Oa9p9PIb7crJFwC63eLeK9g4hWviaDiaDP2CJgsUMdBwVRicAhGpA8JkSj4ibMqha7LRoRSA3nrWFh6pTtqopXUwpg/640?wx_fmt=png" data-type="png" class="" data-ratio="0.640625" data-w="640"  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">但看到后面,大家就渐渐明白了,孩子为什么对她话充耳不闻了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">有一次,感冒尚未痊愈的女儿米娅想吃冰淇淋,马雅舒不同意,米娅直接躺倒在地,又哭又闹,无奈的马雅舒,只好同意去超市买冰淇淋。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">无独有偶,在菜市场,孩子们刚吃完蛋糕,又要吃面包,马雅舒一开始也是拒绝,孩子们先是又哭又喊,见不起效,又改成了撒娇,</span><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“<strong>妈妈,求求你了</strong>”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">果然,马雅舒马上就服软了,还是拿出了面包。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">这样的戏码,时常在她们家上演,孩子们知道妈妈的软肋,只要他们一哭二闹,妈妈一定会心软退让。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">连她自己都说:</span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong>“我应该是一个很好妥协的妈妈。” </strong></span><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;"><strong> </strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><img width=600 src="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_png/njzJttpaxibtcneuBib0iapLxGnIrFQqQPItDwqic8FlPQehCPWAbAS6tcqh7XMuGl9YVJEicG4Pric60bruWfRXa19w/640?wx_fmt=png" data-type="png" class="" data-ratio="0.51" data-w="600"  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“每次只要她哭,我的这个坚持就已经掉到零下了。”</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><img width=600 src="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_jpg/Oa9p9PIb7crJFwC63eLeK9g4hWviaDiaDPjLJcDGBaexjyNxCHDGEqzX2f9tPOeyOSwoIe5W5RKDvqwzB3ibIgkiaA/640?wx_fmt=jpeg" data-type="jpeg" class="" data-ratio="0.7411003236245954" data-w="618"  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">毫无底线的退让,没有原则的让步,久而久之,她的“不可以”“不行”,在孩子面前,毫无杀伤力。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">可以说,马雅舒成功地用不讲原则,孩子哭闹后只会步步退让,把自己的孩子打造成了超级任性撒泼的“熊孩子”。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">教育专家说,一旦告诉孩子“不行”时,一定要坚持。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">如果父母不坚持自己的要求,孩子会认为父母说“不”并不是认真的。</span></strong></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 25.6px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box 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style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 25px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">03</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">最近,邻居豆豆妈跟我说起她的烦心事:</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">带孩子逛超市,孩子要买玩具,不答应孩子,孩子又哭又闹赖着不走,那么多人盯着,场面极其尴尬,无奈的她,只好向孩子妥协。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">“家里玩具一大堆,我一向不主张让孩子养成‘要什么买什么’的坏习惯,可当他哭闹耍赖的时候,又不知道该怎么办?”</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">豆豆妈的烦心事,可能大多数家长都遇到过,也是很多家庭的通病,为孩子设置各种规则,但孩子一哭一闹,父母就乱了分寸,失了原则。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">曾在朋友圈,看过心理学教授李玫瑾分享的育儿之道,看完受益匪浅。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><iframe class="video_iframe" data-vidtype="2" allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" data-ratio="1.7647058823529411" data-w="480" src="https://v.qq.com/iframe/preview.html?vid=g13347qy1zz&amp;width=500&amp;height=375&amp;=0"></iframe></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">有一天,李教授女儿也提出了一个无礼的购物需求,她拒绝后,女儿便大哭大闹。</span><br  /></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">冷静的她,任凭女儿怎么哭闹,也没有动摇自己的原则,坚持把女儿带回了家。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">回到家后,陪着女儿待在房间里,对她的哭闹依旧不予理睬。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">最多递给女儿一条热毛巾,让她擦擦鼻涕一把眼泪一把的脸。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">就这样静静地坐在她跟前,看着她哭,一直等到她哭得筋疲力尽。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">孩子哭了好长一段时间后,见妈妈的态度丝毫不放松,便也作罢。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">从那以后,孩子再也没有提出过任何无礼的要求。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">我很欣赏这位教授的做法,既坚持了自己的原则,让孩子明白自己的无理要求,不会因为孩子的哭闹有着任何的改变。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">同时,又让孩子感受到“我不同意你这样做,但我仍然爱着你,会关心你,不会弃你而去”的安全感。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">闾丘露薇说,无条件的爱和坚持原则,并不矛盾,其实也必须同时存在,不然的话,爱,就会变成溺爱。</span></strong></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 25.6px;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-width="100%" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box 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url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 25px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">04</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">绘本《我永远爱你》中就有这样的对话:</span></p><blockquote style="white-space: normal;"><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">阿力:“如果我把枕头弄得羽毛满天飞,你还爱我吗?”</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">妈妈:“我永远爱你,不过,你们得把羽毛收拾起来。”</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">阿力:“如果我把画画的颜料洒在妹妹身上,你还爱我吗?”</span></strong></p><p style="margin-top: 15px;margin-right: 16px;margin-left: 16px;text-align: justify;"><strong><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(110, 110, 110);">妈妈:“我永远爱你,不过,你得负责给妹妹洗澡。”</span></strong></p></blockquote><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">这位妈妈不厌其烦地对孩子保证,“我永远爱你”,但也有自己的原则,你必须为自己的错误承担责任。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">前两天,朋友圈的一则新闻引起广泛热议。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">一个四年级,身高1米4,可以称为大孩子的“熊孩子”,从背后猛推已经怀孕4个多月的孕妇,险些造成孕妇流产。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">更让人气愤的是,当问及原因,孩子却毫不在乎地说:“我看电视上孕妇摔了会流产,我就想看看推倒她会不会也流产?”</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">简直难以相信,一个仅4年级的孩子,竟做出如此疯狂的行为,说出如此冷漠的话。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">但再听听孩子奶奶的反应,“他还是一个孩子,你和孩子计较什么呢?”</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">你就立马顿悟,“熊孩子”是如何养成的了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">一句“他还是个孩子”,毁掉多少孩子,父母从小告诉孩子是非对错,有哪些事情能做哪些不能做,这些至关重要。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">爱孩子,是我们的本能,父母坚持自己的原则,给孩子立规矩,设规则,让他成长为一个品德高尚的大人,是我们的责任。</span></strong></span></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="90386" data-color="rgb(216, 40, 33)" style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 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data-author="Wxeditor" style="margin: 5px ;max-width: 100%;font-size: 14px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section class="" data-wxsrc="http://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/0" style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;width: 45px;height: 45px;background-image: url(&quot;https://mmbiz.qpic.cn/mmbiz_gif/v4vz52CcB13JzTTXXg3mC439fK28gxRKDGnzLBX1Rm1yvuZYaVibibFLKzjw28tc48iayicA2r0TE0gF98zAZsJnDQ/640&quot;);background-size: 100%;background-repeat: no-repeat;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="margin-right: ;margin-left: ;max-width: 100%;text-align: center;font-size: 16px;font-weight: 700;line-height: 45px;color: rgb(255, 255, 255);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><p style="margin-top: 25px;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;border-width: 0px;border-style: initial;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">05</p></section></section></article></section></section></section></section></section></section></section><p style="margin-top: 25px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">张柏芝在《天天向上》里,曾经讲述自己的育儿心经。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">对玩具爱不释手的两个儿子,张柏芝的原则就是:每次只能挑选自己最喜欢的一个,并且告诉他们,妈妈说的永远不可能改变。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">听话的两个孩子,每次都会挑选最喜爱的一个玩具,因为来之不易,对玩具也是倍加珍惜。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><strong><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">父母之爱子,则为之计深远。</span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">无条件爱着孩子的父母,一定要坚持自己的原则,让孩子遵守基本的规则,你的孩子将来才能有规矩。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;white-space: normal;text-align: justify;"><span style="font-size: 16px;letter-spacing: 1px;">最后和大家分享,美国学校给父母的备忘录:</span></p><ol class=" list-paddingleft-2" style=""><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><span style="letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 15px;">别溺爱我。我很清楚地知道,我不应该得到每一样我所要求的东西,我的无理要求只是在试探你。</span></span></p></li><li><p style="margin-top: 20px;margin-right: 8px;margin-left: 8px;text-align: justify;"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);"><span style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);letter-spacing: 1px;font-size: 15px;">别害怕对我保持公正的态度,这样反倒让我有安全感。</span></span></p></li><li><p style="margin-top: 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-- 作者: applecat1
-- 发布时间: 2018/05/18 07:46pm

说的是,没有规矩,不成方圆。


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